This week on The Goodness Life we’re playing a fun game called “What’s Coming Up for Erin?”.
Recent themes in my life have been revolving around commitment and what that means to me. I identified commitment as one of my core values at a workshop I was at the other day… and it just keeps coming up – how I commit my time to others and to myself.
The thing is, I keep making these halfway, half-hearted commitments, and I’m starting to really notice how heavy and gross that feels. Since it’s always easier to let ourselves down than it is to let our friends/family/lover/boss down, I’m seeing these patterns where I’ll keep the commitments I make to others at the expense of the ones I make to myself.
So I’ve been doing a lot of reflection on what it feels like to commit 100% vs. how it feels to commit only halfway. We all know the commitments I’m talking about. We all say yes to things we’d maybe rather say no to, or say yes at first and then change our minds but feel obligated.
Something new I’m trying on is: honesty and transparency surrounding commitments – if I feel like I’m making a halfway commitment, I let it drop. Let it go.
That leaves me so much more space to commit 100% to the things that I feel really strongly about, plus it helps me feel really solid about the way I’m spending my time. And 100% commitments just feel easier to follow through with. Once you really settle on the decision to go for something 100%, it becomes easy. You can stand behind your decision and start moving forward and getting things done.
Where are your commitment weaknesses? Do you make halfway commitments to your friends or family? To yourself? How can you re-evaluate in the moment so that you can start to drop those halfway commitments? How can you step up and identify a few things you are ready and willing to commit to 100%?
Remember, once you make that solid commitment, it becomes easier to stick with it and follow through. There’s no more wavering and waffling, you’ve made your decision. Try it out with something you’ve been stuck in. Maybe you’ve been talking about it but not making any moves? See what happens when you completely commit!
And now for one of my 100% commitments for the week: This delicious veggie chili I made for you!
Actually, I made it for me… and Reid, but you can share some too, thanks to the internet.
I’ve been going back and forth with so many ideas in my head for this blog and for my coaching business. Dreams and goals and values – it goes on and on. But because of all the halfway commitments, I wasn’t making any headway. I was dancing around with all the ideas in my head and I got stuck. I got caught up with wanting to know exactly what to do next, wanting to have a plan and have “clarity”.
So what did I do? I did what I know, which is food. I made this warm, hearty, filling, grounding chili, and I made a 100% commitment to myself that I would post it on the blog this week.
I still don’t know what is happening next. And I still don’t have a master plan. But I can tell you, it sure feels good to follow through with something I told myself I’d do. So, I hope you enjoy this chili as much as I did! Now get out there and make some of your own 100% commitments! You might be surprised at how good it feels.
BLACK BEAN SWEET POTATO CHILI WITH SPINACH
1 tbsp coconut oil
4 garlic cloves, minced
2 teaspoons ground cumin
2 teaspoons dried Mexican oregano
1 tablespoon chili powder
1 cinnamon stick
1 tbsp chopped chipotle pepper in adobo sauce
2 tsp tomato paste
4 small tomatoes, diced (I was going for approximately the amount in a can, 15 oz)
2 medium sweet potatoes, cut in 1/2-inch chunks
2 bell peppers, diced (I used red, green works too)
2 15 oz cans black beans, drained and rinsed
1 1/2 cups fresh or frozen corn kernels
4 handfuls spinach
2 tbsp cilantro, for garnsih
1 lime, 1/2 juiced, 1/2 cut in wedges for serving
Heat the coconut oil in a large pot or dutch oven. Add garlic and spices and stir to coat, about 1 minute. Add chipotle pepper, tomatoes and tomato paste, and sweet potatoes, and cook on med for about 10-15 minutes. Add the peppers and beans and cook until the sweet potatoes are done, another 10 minutes or so. Turn heat to low and stir in corn, spinach, and lime juice. Serve garnished with cilantro and lime wedges.